I am a day late on this post, spent all day driving and got no time on a computer. To keep up, I will be doing two posts today with the ten commandments.
**Warning** This post can be considered to have mature rated material.
Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery
According to Scripture:
“You shall not commit adultery.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
According to Luther’s Small Catechism
Thou shalt not commit adultery.
What does this mean?–Answer.
We should fear and love God that we may lead a chaste and decent life in words and deeds, and each love and honor his spouse.
According to Catechism of the Catholic Church: Four Parts
I. Male and Female He Created Them…
2332 Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul. It especially concerns affectivity, the capacity to love and to procreate, and in a more general way the aptitude for forming bonds of communion with others.
II. The Vocation to Chastity
2337 Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being. Sexuality, in which man’s belonging to the bodily and biological world is expressed, becomes personal and truly human when it is integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman.
The virtue of chastity therefore involves the integrity of the person and the integrality of the gift.
III. The Love of Husband and Wife
2360 Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.
IV. Offenses Against the Dignity Of Marriage
2380 Adultery refers to marital infidelity. When two partners, of whom at least one is married to another party, have sexual relations – even transient ones – they commit adultery. Christ condemns even adultery of mere desire.170 The sixth commandment and the New Testament forbid adultery absolutely.171 The prophets denounce the gravity of adultery; they see it as an image of the sin of idolatry.172
This commandment can be summed up pretty quickly, sexual relations outside of marriage is a sin. Like the last commandment that was discusses, Murder, we commit sexual adultery is also committed in our thoughts. Just looking at a man or women, boy or girl, with lust is a sin. So like the last commandment, we need to watch our thoughts.
Where I want to look now is the youth, especially todays youth where they are being taught that sexual relations is perfectly acceptable as long as there is protection. The public school system in most states have now, or in the process, of acknowledging that teens have sex. They tried teaching the dangers of it, but like any teenager they didn’t listen. So now instead of teaching against sexual activity, they are promoting the use of protection.
A lot of christian parents have the thought that if they send their kids to a private school they won’t have to worry about these dangers. Truth is, sexual activity is just as often done in christian high schools , as it is in public. The difference is, kids in christian high schoolers just aren’t as involved as much with multiple people. Instead they generally, keep it to just one person, their “committed” relationship partner.
How do I know? I’ve been there. I was in high school about three and a half years ago. Even the most ‘righteous’ of students were involved. I’m not saying every high schooler is involved, but there is a good chance that any couple in high school that has been together for more than a year, is in sin.
Why does this happen? How can it be prevented? I believe there are two major factors for this reason. One, students are taught that sex is bad, but they aren’t warned about the dangers of oral sex, or just touching of another person’s body sexually. Two, at least from my experience, no one has showed them how to have a relationship with Christ, instead God is looked more as a subject in school with lots of rules to follow.
When a christian high school couple have been with each other for a long time, they begin to experiment a little, and push the lines of boundary. They don’t realize what they are doing, and only doing what feels good. “As long as we aren’t having sex, it is fine/normal.” So little by little, they start to become more sexually involved with one another. Their relationship starts to become more like the old frog proverb
The premise is that if a frog is placed in boiling water, it will jump out, but if it is placed in cold water that is slowly heated, it will not perceive the danger and will be cooked to death(wikipedia).
Before they know it, before they are even married, their sexual appetiate largely increases, and they aren’t going to be able to control/full the need, of their appetite.
Teenagers, at the high school age, need to be taught the importance of remaining completely sexually inactive until marriage. They need to be taught when it means to be sexually inactive, not just don’t have sex. They need to be taught how sexual desires can trap you, and how easy it is to be a slave to it. They need to be taught the benefits, and beauty behind waiting until marriage to before you participate in that activity. I believe it would be an amazing thing to tell your future spouse that you saved your whole body for them, kept clean just for them, so that their sexual experiences together may be enhanced. It is a proven statistic that partners who don’t participate in sexual activity before marriage, end up happier, and having a better sex life.
To wrap this up, I want to once again remind you to watch your thoughts. If you are sexually impure, it is okay, don’t beat yourself up over it. God can make you pure again, all you got to do is ask for it with your heart. Last, but not least, to teach the youth of the importance of staying pure. Don’t be afraid to talk to them about it, it could save them the sinful desires.
I just can’t help but think how beautiful a pure wedding marriage is. Two couples coming together, saved theirselves for one another, just the way God designed it to be. It is absolutely beautiful!
- Thou Shalt Have No Other gods
- Thou Shalt Not Take the Name of the Lord, Thy God, in vain.
- Remember the Sabbath Day by Keeping it Holy
- Honor Your Father and Mother
- Thou shalt not kill.
- Thou shalt not commit adultery.
- Thou shalt not steal.
- Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
- Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house.
- Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his man-servant, nor his maid-servant, nor his cattle, nor anything that is his.
Memory Verse of the Week:
It is good to grasp the one and not let go of the other. The man who fears God will avoid all [extremes].